THE KEY TO SUCCESS

What if all of us are on our own independent journeys that are somehow all related? What if we each have a path that we are walking alone, but our journey impacts other journeys in a positive way? What if we are all so intertwined that one person’s success becomes all of our success?

These are the questions I posed to my higher self as a way of better understanding how my work on myself was affecting those whom I love. I have a conscious awareness that as I tune into my inner knowing and show up more authentically as myself, I seem to give permission to those I love to do the same. Conversely, if I don’t seize my power and show up as me, I implicitly block others from doing the same until one of them breaks free.

This one idea—that I had the ability to positively affect my children through my own inner work—motivated me to do my best to be myself, love myself, and show up as myself. But it wasn’t always easy.

We all have ideas of who we think we are supposed to be and those ideas are all based in fear. They presuppose what another needs from us or assume that we won’t be accepted if we just did what we wanted all day long. These ideas also seem to block us from full soul expression, which as far as I can tell is the key to life success: You allowing your authentic spirit out into the world.

To prevent myself from falling into a habit of being the person I thought I was supposed to be, I embarked on a years long project to simply start saying what I wanted in every segment of my day. Here is how that sounds:

I want them to get their own dinner tonight.

I want to write for the next few hours.

I want to take a break and do nothing.

These wants were ideas that I had suppressed for a lot of years because I thought good people stuffed down their feelings and their true wants and instead did what was expected of them. Once I saw the fallacy of that thinking, I started a project in earnest to not only say what I wanted, but do what I wanted, at every moment of the day.

Some days I left work early to go grocery shopping.

Some days I didn’t go into work at all.

And some days I worked, but with an attitude that said, I am only here for the pay.

Had you asked me a decade ago what was the key to my success, I would have said hard work and doing what was expected. If you ask me today, I will tell you that my spirit guides all aspects of my life and we now have more fun than I ever thought possible all while working my job, tending to my family, and writing in my side gig.

How is my full throttle embrace of my spirit affecting my family? Beats me. I now am so confident that they have their own spirit guiding them that I have eased up on my worry for them. I’ve let go of my fears for them. I’ve decidedly stopped trying to teach them about spirituality and instead simply started encouraging them to follow their hearts, be themselves, and enjoy life.

I definitely didn’t start out as a parent who placed fun as a top priority, but that’s where I am today. And here is why.

Doing what is fun for you makes you super productive. Doing what you enjoy every day raises your vibration, making you super attractive. Doing what comes easy to you makes so much sense that I now see it as my job to do the thing that comes easy to me: like writing this blog.

So here’s my message for today: Where are you blocking your full soul expression and thus depriving those you love of the awesomeness that you are? Where are you buying into the schtick that says hard work makes you a good person? Where are you leaving to chance all your hopes and dreams just because you assume they are out of your control?